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How Ginger Saved My Life
New Year, New Books!
New Year, New Books!
So on New Year’s Eve, I decided to stop by my main library and check out some books. I had no idea what I was in the mood to read but as part of my New Years’ resolution, I had to get some. I wrote down this year that I would read more books than that last month.
No matter where I am in the world, I’m getting a library card. Sometimes it gets used frequently. Sometimes I don’t know where the hell it went. So I was trying to find a balance for that.
Anywho, this month I decided that four would be enough. I was allowed one audiobook and three physical copies. As I walked in for the first time, I noticed a very limited amount of books on display BUT there were some nice options available so big clap for the library staff. (I later found out that I could order books online and pick them up but where’s the fun in that?!)
I ended up walking out with these.
This month I gravitated towards mindfulness and compassion. I wanted to have different thoughts and ideas and after the 2020 roller coaster, I was hungry to learn and absorb information and get vibes on these subjects.
The Buddha’s Guide to Gratitude is what started the mindfulness journey. This inspirational book could be read in small parts or all at once as I did. This book is filled with wisdom from all walks of life; activities to achieve a wonderful level of mindfulness and effective forms of meditation.
Elizabeth Archer gives that little dazzle of color you need in your day. She sends motivational messages to its reader. I really enjoyed reading this book after a long shift. This is a long book, but a short read and something I would keep on my coffee table so when my friends come over we can discuss some of the advice or quotes this book shares. A perfect conversation starter.
I absolutely adore the graphics and the simple reminders on how to relax in ways you never really thought of.
Honestly, I didn’t get to complete this book BUT I would totally recommend it. The goal is to set your intentions on how you want to feel once you’ve achieved them. I believe many of us want what we want for reasons that never really take into consideration how it will truly makes us feel.
The crisp edgy layout combined with their thought-provoking questions and ideas makes it a great read/workbook for a creative or visual person.
This is definitely the type of book you should purchase so you are free to write in it. I was tempted to do so in my library book.
The title of this book suggested that you take 30 days to read it but it took me a little less than a week while on my work breaks.
You won’t see this book in the original photo because I grabbed it later on after a trip to the library with my best friend. I was really feeling the positive energy from those first two books, I thought why not keep the party going.
I like the writer’s style. You can tell she knows what she’s talking about but is still down-to-earth. You can tell by the way she uses humor in her stories even if the story isn’t so humorous. She was able to tell stories similar to ours and how compassion can always help us win. I know that sounds cliché as hell but it’s true. Just stop and really think about it.
This book helps you think about how to be compassionate to others and to yourself. I can definitely say that I am a lot more compassionate to others than I am to myself. She has activities and methods of meditation that aren’t ‘old’ and ‘boring’ that can help with this. The best part about them is that they can be done almost anywhere!
They Don’t Plan Anything
Have you noticed that every time you make plans with this person they have an excuse, are extremely late, or just don't show up? If you’ve noticed this behavior, chances are you are not important to them. Your time is not valuable to them and you should stop wasting it with them. People who truly care about you will respect your time.
They Hate Compromise
Being a solid couple involves teamwork. It’s a give and take type of thing. If you find yourself ALWAYS compromising, this relationship isn’t going to work. Yes, at times you will have to compromise more in a relationship but compromise should never be one-sided.
Their Old Relationships Are Still Open
If they are still communicating with people from their past, chances are they aren’t over them. This one-foot-in-one-foot-out thing can complicate your relationship. You are clearly not the main focus and in a healthy relationship, you should be.
Many of us also deal with people who have had children in previous relationships. I would strongly advise staying away from people who do not have a solid consistent plan with their co-parent. If they are still following their ex-partners' every move or taking out frustrations caused by arguments with the co-parent on you, chances are they are still attached and will end up using their child and co-parent as excuses when convenient for them.
Their Wounds Are Still Wide Open
When your partner tells you they won’t treat you a certain way or do something for you because they did it for others in their past and it didn’t work out as planned, RUN!!!
No one should measure how worthy YOU are based on others. It is okay for someone to tell you their reserves, but to flat out refuse is not okay. They are not willing to compromise and are still stuck in the hurt that was inflicted upon them before and you, my friend, can do nothing to change that. If you continue to stay with someone who isn’t over their past, they will continue to give you the bare minimum because you have accepted it.
Money Is Always being Counted
Just Stop. I’m not even going there. NEXT!
They Don’t Respect Boundaries
In healthy relationships there are boundaries. Both parties should be open and honest about these boundaries. Under no circumstance should these boundaries be crossed or disrespected. For example, if planning and being on time is very important to you and your lifestyle, allowing someone to “play” with your time is crossing a major boundary. If you allow your partner to constantly disrespect these boundaries, you will ultimately become annoyed and frustrated. You will feel uncomfortable and unimportant. This is a red flag. Please don’t ignore it.
They Never Do What They Say
Are their actions not matching up with their promises? Have you given them plenty of time to act on their words? If so, it’s time to back away. Ultimately, trust is what keeps a relationship at its healthiest. If you don’t believe anything your partner says, you are only hurting yourself with their consistent cuts. Leave the situation at once.
Say Her Name: Mae C. Jemison
Mae C. Jemison
At 16, she graduated from high school
She then went to study at Stanford University and received degrees in chemical engineering and African American studies
She loved to dance so much she took lessons at Ailey School
Jemison later went to Cornell Univerity for medical school
She worked in a Cambodian refugee camp
She did a study group in Cuba
Mae worked with Flying Doctors in East Africa
First black female in space
Things she took to space as the first black female astronaut:
Judith Jamison Dance "Cry" Poster to space
A flag from the oldest black sorority
“The Bundu or Sande Society is a pan-African Association of women found among several West African groups in Guinea, Liberia, and Sierra Leone.”
